現在的你也正面臨恐怖情人或家庭暴力的狀況嗎？

那就快來看看小編今天分享給各位的暴力循環理論喔。

相信一定能帶給你們更多的勇氣喔～

 

I got flowers today.

我今天收到花了

It wasn’t my birthday or any other special day.

今天不是我的生日或什麼特別的日子

We had our first argument last night.

昨晚，我們第一次吵架

And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.

他說了很多殘忍的話，傷害了我

I know he is sorry and didn’t mean the things he said.

我知道他很抱歉而且不是故意的

Because he sent me flowers today.

因為他今天送我一束花

 

I got flowers today.

我今天收到花了

It wasn’t our anniversary or any other special day.

今天不是我們的結婚紀念日也不是什麼特別的日子

Last night he threw me into a wall and started to chokeme.

昨晚，他把我推去撞牆，然後掐著我

It seemed like a nightmare.

仿佛是場惡夢

I couldn’t believe it was real.

我不敢相信那是真的

I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.

今早，我遍體麟傷的醒過來

I know he must be sorry.

我知道他一定很抱歉

Because he sent me flowers today.

因為他今天送我花了

 

I got flowers today.

我今天收到花了

It wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day.

今天不是母親節或是什麼特別的日子

Last night he beat me up again.

昨晚，他又痛打我一頓

And it was must worse than all the other times.

打的比之前的還慘

If I leave him, what will I do?

如果我離開他，我還能做什麼?

How will I take care of my kids?

我要怎麼照顧我的小孩?

What about money?

哪來的錢呢?

I’m afraid of him and scared to leave.

我很怕他，也害怕離開

But I know he must be sorry.

但我知道他一定很抱歉

Because he sent me flowers today.

因為他今天送我花了

 

I got flowers today.

我今天收到花了

It was the day of my funeral.

這是我的葬禮

Last night, he finally killed me.

昨晚，他終於殺了我

He beat me to death.

他把我活活打死

If only I had gathered enough courage and strength toleave him.

如果我有足夠的勇氣和力量離開他

I would not havegotten flowers today.

我今天就不會收到花了

 

摘自Allen Dowdell，1991

 

這個家庭暴力循環理論，就是被害者最容易掉入的慰藉心理理論，一旦讓自己走進這樣的心態裡，那麼讓自己陷入這場無止境的關係暴力只是早晚的事喔。面對關係暴力其實沒有想像中的可怕，最讓人害怕的其實是無意間讓自己掉入這無止盡的迴圈裡。不想讓自己掉進這樣的圈套裡嗎？那就交給專業的禾馨女人來替你判斷這段關係是值得繼續，或是該做好那些防備措施以應對隨著而來的暴力威脅喔。想了解更多的粉粉們，就快來敲敲小編們吧～